Going through a divorce when you have children means you have to put their needs first. In some cases, this means following the co-parenting model. You and your ex will have to work closely together to raise the children if you choose this option.
While this is what’s best for the kids, things won’t always be easy for you and your ex. Consider implementing these strategies to make the situation a bit easier for everyone.
Use a centralized schedule
Part of being a co-parent is attending the child’s activities. One of the easiest ways to ensure both parents know when the child has something going on is to use a centralized schedule. Both parents should be able to add events to the calendar so everyone has the information.
Direct communication benefits everyone. You and your ex should agree that messages won’t ever be passed through the children. When kids pass messages, information may be relayed incorrectly. Additionally, the kids may have to deal with a harsh reaction to negative information.
Make transitions simple
Transition days can be stressful for everyone, but especially for children. Try to make these as easy as possible by avoiding difficult conversations with your ex. You can also try to minimize packing for your child by making sure they have essentials at both homes.
You and your co-parent should set up a parenting plan that meets the needs of your children. This should include the schedule you’ll follow as well as expectations for both parents. It’s wise to have experienced legal guidance as you do this.