Informing your spouse you want a divorce can be challenging. Even though your marriage may have had issues, deciding you want to dissolve it may not come easy.
So, how do you tell someone you thought you would spend the rest of your life with that the marriage can’t be saved?
Below are three tips to help you:
Be sure you want a divorce
Before telling your spouse you want a divorce, you should be sure first. If you have determined therapy, talking to loved ones and other solutions can’t solve the issues affecting your marriage and are certain divorce is the only way forward, then you can inform your spouse.
Telling your spouse you want a divorce out of anger only to change your mind later can negatively impact your marriage. Besides, your spouse may not take you seriously when you raise the matter in the future.
Choose the right time
A divorce conversation requires attention. Thus, you should choose the right time to hold it. Pick a time when both of you will be uninterrupted – starting the conversation when your spouse is about to leave the house or after a long day may lead to an unsuccessful interaction. When having the conversation, consider turning off your phones. If you have kids, send them to a loved one over the weekend.
Be mindful of your spouse’s feelings
Despite your marriage having issues, your spouse may not have expected a dissolution. They may be hurt and confused when you bring up divorce. Therefore, you should be mindful of their feelings. You don’t want to use words that can lead to emotional harm. Not only is this unfair, but it can also result in a conflict, hence a difficult divorce.
If you want a divorce, seek legal help from the get-go to make informed decisions.